- You know what they say: love comes and goes, but then again it comes, it leaves, it comes again. What we call love is not love. True love never goes anywhere. If a person has already learned this love, he can never refuse it. As a mother, he never ceases to love his son, even if he has become a crook, a gangster, has committed some terrible crime ...
It must be understood that this is not love left. The false feeling of love has gone, the admiration of man has gone, the seduction has gone. The man was disappointed in something. So he was fascinated by something wrong? A mirage that he believed was scattered. Well and good.
So, you need to love the one who was in front of you, when all these dreams were dispelled. And you can continue to love. Love is doing. There is a love-feeling that is very changeable, and it is impossible to base a marriage on this feeling. And there is love as the will. So I love this man and will always do everything for him, live for this person, will humble myself before him, will tolerate him, this person, try to help him change for the better.I love him, it is my duty, this is my main concern in life.
When a person is busy with this doing, when he is working on it, then true love appears. She and the feeling manifests itself, but this is a different feeling, it is not love. This is a very deep, strong feeling. Therefore, do not be afraid that the mood changes. Bishop of Smolensk and Vyazma Panteleimon (Shatov)
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