Before you lecture others - reconcile with yourself
A man of his own sinfulness often does not notice his own vices, but to delve into the soul of his neighbor is always welcome. The very phrase itself - to teach others - sounds like something down. It can be one of the manifestations of the sin of pride, they say, so I read it and I know, let me tell you to the uneducated.
The temptation for beginners
Sometimes a person just for joy tries to share with others, but they are not ready to perceive. Due to obsession, the essence is lost.
Very often such a temptation awaits those who become churches or newly churches. Man is just beginning to discover the lump of Orthodoxy. You can imagine a person who went to the library and picked up a book. I opened it, maybe I read two pages, and I wanted to share it with my neighbor.
It is nothing that he has not yet met with gold funds. But he visited the temple several times, sets candles, submits little notes, even went to the monastery once and began to fast in Great Lent. Time to lecture others.
Start with yourself
Do not go to church, do not read the Bible, do not observe posts, wear short skirts - the list of vices can be continued. Of course, all this can be true. The apostle Paul says that if you notice the sins of others, then people need to talk about it.
That's just the catch? In order to start, you need to clear yourself of what you are going to denounce to others. Serafim Sarovsky says: "When a person comes to a peaceful dispensation, then he can pour out the light of the enlightenment of the mind from himself and others."
If you yourself read something in the literature, but did not really understand, did not survive, then your advice will be more like a profanation. So why do we continue to teach others?
Is it possible to teach another to swim if you do not know how? Or talk about how beautiful it is in Australia if you have never been there yourself? You can tell a lot of things, but what's the use of it?
Do not you have to notice how cautious in the statements can be monks? People learn to filter every thought, word, deed.
Of course, if a person has a talent from God to preach and transmit knowledge, then he should not be buried in the ground. But between “teaching” and “teaching” others is a significant difference.The second requires special wisdom and the ability to select the key to each, so that your comment will be perceived correctly.
For each comment that alienated the person from the church, the grandmother of the temple will have to answer. For each mistake in the rapid churching, our relatives will be asked.
For each inattentive action of the priest in relation to the flock will have to report. If not here, then there. Therefore, one must be very careful in matters of teaching others. The best way is to start cultivation from yourself, and to pray for others first of all.
There is another way to check if a person needs to say something. Pray from the bottom of your heart (at least three times after reading the Jesus prayer), if the desire to help someone is not lost, then contact us. If not, just switch to analyzing your own actions.
How to suggest not to lecture others: 7 tips
- Before exposing the other, pull the beam out of your own eye.
- Before you turn to another, ask God to help.
- Speak to people in their language.
- Address a person only when he can perceive (no need to “throw beads in front of pigs” - throw words aroundin vain and only angry another person).
- Remember that the same advice can be useful for one person and harmful for another.
- Say what you know for sure: survived yourself, read in authoritative sources.
- Remember that heresies spread because people who misunderstood the essence passed on erroneous knowledge to others. Therefore, avoid your own extravagant and suspicious judgments.